You know when…

You know when something shitty happens between you and a friend, or boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife or coworker and you’re going through it…your friends always say, “it’s not you, it’s THEM.”  and that’s spose to make you feel better?
It never really does make you feel better because as natural humans we figure it has to be something we did, said or just is to have caused it to happen in the first place.
You go through all your faults with a fine tooth comb and think of everything you did that MIGHT have caused the other person to get weird and not be your friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife or coworker that was once cool to you, but now isn’t.
I went to the umptenth degree of analyzing what I could have done that caused me to get to where we were…thinking it was the new set of TV shows I had added to the Tivo.  Yes, THAT HAD TO BE IT. Maybe that show was the one thing that set that person over the edge.
Crazy, yes…but that’s what someone does. It’s what *I* did.

Then you hit the next phase…maybe it WAS the other person.  In the back of your head though…you still think it was because of something you did…because that person seems to be alright now.

HA!  Let me just say this…when someone says, “it’s not you, it’s them..”  BELIEVE THEM.

I am finally free of all those doubts because I got the validation I needed in an text today!

I am moving on with a clear head and knowing that there wasn’t a damn thing I could have done or been to change the outcome!

THANK YOU JESUS, HOLY SPIRIT, KARMA GODDESS or whatever higher force it was that brought it.