Random and Odd

I had written a post going into detail about the stupid drama going on in the Random and Odd household.  I decided to delete it and go with this;

Don’t you hate stupid people? Don’t you hate it when people make judgments by only hearing one side of the story? Don’t you hate it when you’re forced to pick a side?

Recently I was pulled into an argument that had NOTHING to do with me.  The only reason I got drug into it was because my 14 year old daughter was being called names by an adult who only listened to one side of the story.

I am now left with the words that were said to me.  This person hurt my feelings by saying things that weren’t true.  Now I ask myself, “If I know they aren’t true…then why is it bothering me?”  Because I hate it when people think I am a way that I am not.  It’s not wrong for people to want to see you for who you are.  MANY years were spend with me pretending to be a certain way so I would fit into the mold.   When I didn’t fit in, I lost my mind and hurt a lot of people in the process of ‘finding myself’.

It’s been a few days and I have calmed down enough to try to see things from a different point of view.  What I am lead to believe is, this person…has lost her mind as well.  She was being forced into a mold that she doesn’t fit into and doesn’t want to be in.  The only way to ‘be heard’ is to scream and shout and act a fool.  It’s just sad that SO many other people are being hurt because of it.  What is going to hurt later on is when it’s over and done.

Many times I have said, “I’m an Aries, I am too lazy to hold a grudge.”  Sure, that may be the case. I won’t carry around hurt and resentment. I will look at it for what it was and then throw it away.   Without a shadow of doubt, the day will come when this person comes to me and says, “I don’t know what I was thinking. I’m sorry.”

Now, what I am left with is, what will be my response?  I know I will want to say, “You said you didn’t like me and I should go to hell.”  Point out how I was misjudged and labeled.  Or will I do what I always do and say, “Aww, it’s alright.”

God knows I don’t want to.  I was HURT.  Does my feelings not matter to ANYONE?  Is it alright for someone to attack someone and then later on want to be a part of your life?  I’m tired of excuses.

I’m tired of people being resentful of people when something good happens to them.  I am tired of people acting like children and only liking you when you are willing to live by their ‘rules’.
Who I decide to forgive is up to me.

You words will come back to haunt you.  Use them wisely.

And with that said;    BRING ON MY BIRTHDAY MONTH!!  this month just sucked the big donkey.

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5 Comments

  • Michelle

    I most certainly would not say
    “Aww it’s OK” if you were hurt. I think you can find a middle ground between bitch slapping her (as Melissa so eloquently put it above) and just giving in. Perhaps a simple, “you’re intitled to your opinion. It hurt me and I disagree but I can’t change that.” Passive agressive – sure a bit but who cares?

  • Liza

    what is wrong with people that they would call a 14 year old names regardless of any situation. people suck.

    it really is birth-day month coming up! yay!! my baby might be an aries, but most likely picses – though I know nothing about either.

  • Fantastagirl

    Aries aren’t supposed to hold grudges? NOW someone tells me – I’ve been holding grudges for years.

    I think by the time this person realizes what they did you’ll find a away to say – Yes, what you said was wrong, hateful and mean. and that’s it – don’t let her know what she did to you – cause next time (and there’s always a next time) it will be twice as bad, because she’ll know what your weakness is… or perhaps I’m the one that needs to learn to forgive and forget, and not be giving advice…